The answer depends on who you’re with.
And you know you can choose your people, right? Make sure that you choose them carefully.
You are shaped by the people around you: family, friends and even strangers pressure you into acting out social roles.
These people also help to mould the perception of who you are in the outside world. But only you can access and control your inner world.
Inner vs. Outer Worlds
He who looks outside dreams
He who looks inside wakes
- Carl Jung
You build yourself from within, not without. How your crew makes you think and act helps you evolve.
Now take a close look at your friends.
These people are your supportive party crew. They reflect who you are at present and suggest (not determine) where you will be going in the future. They are the people who will help you along the way.
Not happy with what you see? Worry not.
Your party crew will change over time as you get older and move.
If you’re lucky, a few loyal party members will stay with you even though you’re far away from each other.
Those rare people belong to a breed I like to call your dance partners because they will dance with you for the rest of your life. You know who they are. Cherish them. Let them know you’re there.
Create an Internal Party Crew Compass
Begin to operate from the inside-out perspective.
Look inside. Start with you.
What qualities do you admire in a good friend? Keep those qualities close to your heart. Together they make up the coordinates and the compass with which you will later use to choose your friends.
Teach yourself to recognise the people who bring out the best in you. Always choose people who:
- Challenge you
- Make you laugh
- Make you feel comfortable
Sounds confusing? It’s because you want a party mix.
Remember that different friends serve different purposes. Once you know this, you can design your party crew in a way to include people across a broad spectrum of qualities and personalities.
So what are you waiting for? Spice up your party crew, and head out for that Big Night Out!
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