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You want to feel more confident, smart and loved, right?
Of course you do. What a silly question.
But it’s difficult to get there.
It’s easy to focus on your desires, but to forget what you need to do.
It’s the desire trap.
Get What You Want by Identifying What You Need
You want a life you love.
You want to share it with people you admire.
You want to roam free and feel more confident.
There’s only one problem.
You’re stuck in the desire trap.
Why?
Because you’re answering the wrong question. You’re answering the “what do you want” question.
Now, you love that question, and I don’t blame you. But it’s not getting you anywhere. You have to act on it and stop living in an illusion.
“If you’re stuck, try changing the question.” - Click to Tweet
The Question You Should Ask Yourself
Most people are stuck on the “what do you want” question. Either they don’t know what they want, or they prefer to live in Fairytale land.
But you don’t. You want to move forward and act on your desire. So, the next question you must ask yourself is:
What do I need to do?
This sounds simple, but it rarely is.
Most people skip this step because they don’t want to do the hard work. And don’t fool yourself, it is hard work. It requires you to do research. But not only that, you also have to apply the research to your own situation.
That’s not exactly sexy.
Save yourself the time and frustration and play around with the question.
Don’t get stuck on the “right” answer, because there isn’t one. This isn’t school. This is life. And in life, there are always many ways to solve a problem, or fulfil a desire.
You can fill in the following sentence to help you overcome that obstacle.
I want to [identify desire], so I need to [identify resource].
Brainstorm resources and try out different alternatives.
Examples:
I want to feel more confident, so I need to remind myself that I’m good enough.
I want to feel more smart, so I need to follow a smart framework to live by.
I want to feel more loved, so I need to ask my own party crew for support.
See how desires and resources tie together?
Our resources often boil down to actions. They create a more holistic and balanced world view because they add to our character. Rather than to scratch the surface of our superficial desires, they fulfil our deepest needs as human beings.
Focus on your resources and what you need to do. Only then will you achieve the results you’re hoping for.
Conclusion
- Desires. Oh, how we love them. But remember, you have to find ways to channel your desires. Otherwise they’re useless.
- Identify your resources. This is the real trick. Ask yourself: What do I already have? What do I need more of? It can be time, money, support…
- Use your resources to channel your desires.
Ready to feel more confident, smart and loved?
Go check out the Party Tricks resources page that will help you conquer your fears and be more awesome today.
